To spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness.
We often think that grief, or loss, is a linear process. However, Kubler Ross and ‘The Cycle of Grief’ model helpfully presents the process of grief as being cyclical. But it can also feel like being stuck on a hamster wheel of sadness. Loss, traumatic change, and grief sometimes evolve into maladaptive thinking. Learning to ‘accept and go with the flow of grief’ is an important aspect of grief management. With supportive coaching you can work to reframe your sad experience to focus on more positive ways of thinking.
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The practical info:
While many people associate grief with a loss or death, that’s not always the case. People can also grieve when adjusting to any sort of new normal. “Maybe you’re becoming an empty nester, or you’re newly retired,” says Jannel Phillips, Ph.D., a neuropsychologist at Henry Ford Health System. “The emotions you experience look similar to grief – and underneath that grief are neurological changes that take place in the brain.”
Now, here comes the science bit…
In fact, several regions of the brain play a role in emotion, including areas within the limbic system and pre-frontal cortex. These involve emotional regulation, memory, multi-tasking, organization and learning. When you’re grieving, a flood of neurochemicals and hormones dance around in your head. “There can be a disruption in hormones that results in specific symptoms, such as disturbed sleep, loss of appetite, fatigue and anxiety,” says Dr. Phillips.
So…. Relaxation, acceptance, hypnotherapy, and a mindset reframe in a supportive environment can support you to ease into a more settled internal space.